It was the spring semester of my junior year of college, and I was drowning. I had 18 credit hours (including 3 capstone courses), an internship in the Psychological Science Department, and my duties as the secretary of my college’s 4-H Club.
I distinctly remember the day I reached my breaking point…
I had pulled several all-nighters relatively close together, which meant my brain was almost mush. I was walking into one of my classes one morning after one of those all nighters, when a friend of mine in the doctoral program caught me as she was exiting her classroom.
Somehow, she immediately discerned that I was on the verge of a mental breakdown. I chatted with her through my tears about my schedule and everything that I needed to get done — all of which I knew I couldn’t possibly have enough hours in the day to complete.
In that moment, she asked me a question that changed everything:
“Carrie, have you ever NOT gotten something done?”
Overwhelmed Doesn’t Mean Impossible
Her question took me by surprise…I stammered a bit, blurting out explanations and a few exceptions.
Her stare never wavered during my nonsense response. And I realized that she was right…I had never NOT gotten something done.
I may not have always completed something within the (sometimes self-imposed) deadline, but eventually I got everything done. Whether it was an assignment, a project, papers, to-dos, a social activity, or club duties, everything that needed to be done – that had a priority – got done.
Mind = blown.
Her insight is something I still carry with me. I still have a mini-meltdown on occasion (that’s healthy, right?) but when I’m feeling overwhelmed, I always ask myself:
“Have you ever NOT gotten something done?”
I share this with you, ladies of LEAP, because I’m sure you’ve felt this pressure, too. Don’t beat yourself up when you’re feeling overwhelmed by everything on your (very full) plate.
Breathe. And, be kind to yourself because you are your own worst critic. It WILL get done. You’ve got this!
About Carrie Wilson, Community Ambassador
When it comes to developing our community, making connections, and supporting our members, Carrie is our gal. Think of her as our one-woman LEAP welcome wagon!
She loves LEAP because:
Carrie holds a B.S. in Psychology with a minor in Women's and Gender Studies. She lives in Indiana and, in her spare time, she raises Dalmatians and travels to dog shows.